Dear Love, I’m Talking to God About You

You don’t need to have met someone to start preparing your heart and theirs for love. In fact, some of the best love stories begin long before the first date, long before the butterflies, and long before you even lock eyes across the church pew or coffee shop. They begin with a prayer.

Yep, we are going there. We are talking about praying for someone you haven’t met yet. Sounds like a scene out of a Christian romantic, but trust me it’s real, raw, and one of the most powerful things you can do while you're waiting. Because let’s be honest: waiting can be hard. It can be confusing. And lonely. But what if I told you that you’re not just waiting you are building, preparing, partnering with God for a love that’s deeper than feelings?

So, if you are single and searching or even dating but want to be intentional this one’s for you. Let’s talk about how to pray for your future partner like they’re already part of your story.

1. Pray for Their Relationship with God

Let’s start with the foundation. If you want a relationship that lasts, you need someone who knows who they are in God before they try to figure out who they are with you.

Pray that they love God more than they will ever love you. Not in a weird, second-place kind of way but in a way that keeps your future relationship grounded, guided and growing. Ask God to deepen their faith. Pray they find joy in Him, wisdom in His word, and purpose in His presence.

Tip: Instead of praying, "God, give me a godly partner," try, "God, make them someone who seeks You with their whole heart just like I want to."

2. Pray for Their Mental and Emotional Health

We all carry baggage. Some of us roll in with a carry-on. Others... bring a whole checked-in trauma trunk.

Pray that your future partner is being healed from past wounds. That they are dealing with their insecurities, fears, and hurts now not in the middle of your relationship later. Pray they have the right tools, support systems, and courage to be emotionally whole.

Ask God to place therapists, mentors, and real friends around them. Because wholeness isn't perfection it's awareness, willingness, and growth.

Pro Tip: Ask God to do the same for you. Healthy people attract healthy people.

3. Pray for Their Character

Good looks fade. Charm wears off. But character? That stuff ages like fine wine.

Pray that they are becoming someone who’s kind when no one’s watching. That they’re honest even when it’s inconvenient. That they have integrity, discipline, compassion, and humility. These are the things that make love last long after the honeymoon stage is over.

Example Prayer: “God, shape their character in secret places. Teach them how to lead, serve, apologise, and forgive before they ever do it with me.”

4. Pray for Their Friendships and Community

Who they surround themselves with now will deeply impact who they become later. So yes, pray for their people.

Pray that your future partner has uplifting, wise, grounded friendships. That they are not walking through life alone. That they’re being challenged, encouraged, sharpened, and supported by a community that brings them closer to Christ.

Also? It’s totally okay to pray for in-laws too.

Witty Insight: If you’re going to marry the person, you’re marrying their community too (group chats, family dinners, and all).

5. Pray Over Their Decisions and Direction

Your partner’s decisions today are shaping the life you’ll share tomorrow. So, pray for their path.

Pray they make wise career choices. That they follow God's voice over pressure, popularity, or fear. Ask God to order their steps because when they’re walking in purpose, it won’t just bless them... it’ll bless you too.

Story Time: I once prayed for someone to find a job that fulfilled them even before I knew who they were. Years later, I met a man who told me he had just landed his dream job after months of praying. I smiled. God hears.

6. Pray for Their Protection

You may not know who they are, but you can still stand in the gap for them.

Pray for physical protection, yes. But also emotional, spiritual, and relational protection. Ask God to guard their heart from toxic relationships. To keep them from distractions that pull them away from purpose. To cover them from harm and deception.

Because love is a war zone sometimes and prayer is your first line of defence.

7. Pray for Timing and Patience (Yours and Theirs)

Oor Timing. Possibly the most frustrating part of the whole waiting game.

But here’s the thing just because it’s delayed doesn’t mean it’s denied. So, pray for trust in the timing. Ask God to prepare both of you, to mature you, and to reveal His plan step by step.

Relatable Moment: I used to pray for God to hurry up. Now I pray for Him to hold me steady.

8. Pray for Their Past, Present and Future

You are not just praying for the “now”you’covering the entire journey.

Pray healing over their past. Grace for their present. Hope for their future. Your prayer can break generational cycles, open new doors, and rewrite stories.

You are not begging God. You’re partnering with Him. You’re aligning your heart with Heaven’s agenda.

9. Pray for Yourself Too (Seriously, Don’t Skip This)

Spoiler alert: this isn’t just about them.

Pray that you grow into the kind of person you’re asking God to send. Ask for patience. For purpose. For healing. For confidence. For clarity. Because when both of you are seeking God individually, what happens when you meet? Fireworks, baby. Holy ones.

Self-Check: If your dream partner showed up tomorrow, would you be ready for them?

FAQs: Let’s Answer the Big Questions

Q: Can I pray for someone I’ve never met?
A: Absolutely. You’re not being weird you are being intentional. Prayer is a powerful way to prepare your heart and your future.

Q: How often should I pray for my future spouse?
A: There's no magic number. Just be consistent. It can be once a week, during your quiet time, or when you’re feeling especially hopeful (or lonely).

Q: Should I journal my prayers?
A: Yes! Writing letters or prayers to your future partner can be healing and beautiful. And one day, it might be an unforgettable gift.

Q: What if I never meet them?
A: Then you will still have become someone who loves deeply, prays boldly, and lives with intention. That’s never wasted.

Conclusion: Love is Built Before It’s Found

Here’s the truth: You don’t have to wait until you’re in love to start loving well. Praying for your future partner before you even meet isn’t about desperation it’s about devotion. It’s about preparation. It’s about inviting God into the love story before it even begins.

So, start today. Whisper a prayer. Light a candle. Write a letter. Put their name in your future journal even if it’s just “Future Husband” or “My Queen.”

Because when you pray now, you water the seeds of something holy. Something worth the wait.

Now it’s your turn
Have you ever prayed for your future partner? What’s one thing you’d ask God for in their life right now?

Drop it in the comments below or share this with someone who needs a reminder that love starts long before the first date.

You are not just waiting. You are planting. And someday soon? You are harvest a love that was covered in prayer.

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