Your relationship won’t work if you’re miles apart, at least that’s what they say. And I get it. Being far from your partner, not being able to hold their hand, rest on their shoulder, or fall asleep together can be tough. But does distance really have to mean disconnect?

Long-distance relationships can be both rewarding and challenging. While distance may separate you physically, emotional intimacy and thoughtful actions can bridge that gap. A long-distance relationship doesn't always have to end with disconnection or loss of interest if both partners are willing to put in the effort. So, focus more on seeing it as a test of your bond rather than a bridge.

Sarah and David had to cope, staying miles apart from each other. After playing loving-dovey during their university days, it was time to test if what they had was just a fling or the kind of love that could stand the test of time. Sarah was posted to serve in Benue, while her boyfriend David was posted to Abuja for his NYSC.

But just like any two partners, they had worries about whether it was going to work out or not. Sarah and David were not ready to give in to the myth that long-distance relationships do not work, so they were intentional about making the relationship work and it did. After one year of youth service and extra two years of work, David bridged the gap by coming to take his woman home with a ring as a promise of forever.

This story of Sarah and David proves that long-distance relationships can work when handled with intention, patience, and love. Whether you’re new to an LDR or have been navigating one for a while, this guide offers thoughtful ideas and practical tips to strengthen your bond and help your love story stand the test of time just like Sarah and David's.

Questions to Ask Yourself Before Going into a Long-Distance Relationship

Long-distance relationships can be both rewarding and challenging. Before embarking on this path, it is important to assess yourself to determine if you are up for it.

A) Are You Prepared for the Emotional Demands of a Long-Distance Relationship?

Long-distance relationships can get harder as the days go by. Before embarking on the journey, you need to assess yourself and decide if you are ready for the emotional demands, knowing you will have to deny yourself certain emotional needs because of the distance barrier.

B) Do You Trust Your Partner Enough?

Trust is a necessary element in every relationship. The need for trust is even greater when miles separate you. Ask yourself: Do I trust my partner to be committed and faithful while we are apart? Do I trust myself to stay true to this relationship during this phase? Answering these questions sincerely will help you know if you can embark on this journey.

C) Is My Relationship Worth It?

A long-distance relationship is a risk, a risk that should only be taken when your relationship is worth it. Ask yourself: Do I love this person enough? Is this person worth taking the risk for, is this person worth waiting for?

D) What Are Your Long-Term Goals?

What future plans have you two made together? Do you both have plans to settle in the next 1–2 years? Do you have plans to see each other again soon? These questions will help ensure you don’t waste each other’s time.

How to Cope with a Long-Distance Relationship

Before Sarah moved to Benue, she asked me, “How do I cope not seeing my boyfriend? I told her to get herself fully engaged.

“Get busy, Sarah. Make good use of your 24 hours.” One of the key elements that can help you in a long-distance relationship is occupying yourself. If you’re less busy, your craving for emotional and physical satisfaction will be on a rise. So, get busy. You don’t want to create room for thoughts that could be detrimental to your relationship.

Let’s not get too philosophical by saying an idle mind is the devil’s workshop, but staying busy definitely keeps your mind off unnecessary worries. Aside from staying busy, have something to look forward to, it could be a visit or the assurance of when the long-distance phase will end.

Does a Long-Distance Relationship Actually Work?

Yes, long-distance relationships can work, but it takes two to make it happen. Both partners must love, cherish, and be committed to each other.

So, the real question should be: Do my partner and I love, trust, and commit to making it work? Having the desire to make it work is one thing; putting in intentional effort is another.

Here are 7 thoughtful things to do in your long-distance relationship to make it work:

1. Have Online Dates

When you’re miles apart from your partner, the last thing you want is for them to feel disconnected emotionally or physically. Plan virtual dates where you both can have a good time together reminiscing moments, playing games, or even cooking together over video calls.

2. Communicate Regularly

Communication is key in any relationship, especially in a long-distance one. Make it a habit to talk every day and share even the smallest details of your life.

3. Send Surprise Packages

One way to get into your partner’s heart is by sending gifts especially the ones they don’t see coming. A thoughtful gift can brighten their day and make them feel cherished.

4. Pray Together

A couple who prays together stays together. Nothing strengthens a bond like shared spiritual moments. Set a time to pray together online and watch your connection deepen.

5. Celebrate Special Days Together

While making your partner feel special should be a daily habit, certain days deserve extra attention. Birthdays, anniversaries, convocations, and Valentine’s Day are moments you should go all out for. If possible, show up in person if not, make it special virtually.

6. Send Pictures and Videos

Don’t be a boring partner, spice up your long-distance relationship by sending pictures and videos. Take intentional selfies or short clips for your partner so they feel like they are part of your daily life.

7. Be Available

You don’t want to be the partner who’s absent both physically and emotionally. Be available when your partner needs you, especially during tough days. Let them know you’re there, even if it’s through a phone screen.

Final Thoughts

Distance means so little when someone means a lot. long distance require two willing and intentional hearts. many couples have successfully navigated long distance love and you too can, if you apply these thoughtful tips.

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Lets hear from you which of the 7 thoughtful things to do in a long distance relationship resonate with you the most.

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